I’ll never forget the doctor’s visit for our first pregnancy. I was eight weeks along and we had been trying to have a child for around a year. The doctor did her best to deliver a composed expression but I could tell something was wrong. The heartbeat was very faint and she asked us to come back in a week. The week in between was one of the longest waits of my life. We were surrounded in prayer by our family (we didn’t belong to a church at that time.) At the next appointment we learned the heart had stopped beating and so began another period of waiting for a child. We waited together with hope.
Six months after our miscarriage I found out I was pregnant again and my husband Chris and I had our son Liam. We had been attending Restoration for about a year and during that time was the epic baby boom of 2012/2013. There were around eight other pregnant women at Restoration during that time! We waited with anticipation for each new birth. The white rose appeared on the table and the announcement was shared. We waited together in celebration.
About a year later when I had somewhat recovered from sleep deprivation and came to my senses we decided it was a good time to try for another child. Months went by and then years. We opened up to our Community Group and close friends and family about the struggle we were facing and asked others to pray for us. After three years of trying we decided to pursue medical intervention from a fertility specialist and I will always be thankful for that decision. We were offered support in so many ways. Friends watched our son while we attended appointments and another brave friend gave me an injection when I was too afraid to do it myself. Because fertility treatments are calculated to the exact day many knew when I was supposed to take a pregnancy test and sent texts of encouragement. Some of those friends were experiencing their own fertility problems and yet they waited faithfully with us in anticipation until I was able to share the good news. We waited together in faithfulness.
I am always reminded of those who are waiting during this season of Advent and I’m thankful God calls us to be in community together while we wait. I’ve seen God’s grace through a community of believers even when my hope lead to dissapointment many times. If you are in a period of waiting I encourage you to seek out a community following Jesus and ask them to wait along side of you.